Looking Back – It’s All in Your Perspective

My 31st birthday was this weekend. Birthdays are always a time of reflection for me & thanks to technology (Facebook memories) its a point in the year that I always have lots of past data to reference back to. Looking at pictures from my 25, 29 & 30 birthday all brought back memories of aContinue reading “Looking Back – It’s All in Your Perspective”

Why Can’t I Bury My Head in the Sand? Willfulness, Willingness & Radical Acceptance

Last Wednesday I received news that I felt completely unprepared to handle.  Since then, I’ve spent a good bit of time stewing in a sea of negative emotions. In an attempt to balance out those emotions, I’ve also focused my meditations this week on the concept of willingness.  In DBT, the willfulness/willingness dialectic is part of RadicalContinue reading “Why Can’t I Bury My Head in the Sand? Willfulness, Willingness & Radical Acceptance”

Walking the Middle Path during COVID-19

March 11th was the last day my life resembled normal. On March 12, I worked my final shift at my event gig, but the city was beginning to go into lockdown and a whopping 3 people showed up. In the 7 weeks that has passed, life has been both everything and nothing like what IContinue reading “Walking the Middle Path during COVID-19”

Missed Opportunities for Growth

It’s no secret 2019 was not good to me… I got stuck in a trauma loop, I felt like the rug got pulled out from under my feet & I am now in a place of completely rebuilding. I’m currently two months into my phoenix moment. As I go through my days, I find lifeContinue reading “Missed Opportunities for Growth”

What kind of change do you need?

Understanding the difference between 1st & 2nd order change.Originally published January 5, 2019 on jamieschmidtlpc.com With the New Year upon us, many of us find ourselves in a time of self-reflection and intention setting for the upcoming year. While some find it cliché, I love using the New Year as a distinct starting point forContinue reading “What kind of change do you need?”

When Touch is Scary after Trauma

So I am not a touchy-feely person.   Another wonderful side effect of being a trauma survivor.  My energy is sacred to me & my body is my vessel for that energy.  Since it has a history of being violated, I’m extra protective of it.  I avoid big crowds where I cannot control people bumping into me.  I’m not aContinue reading “When Touch is Scary after Trauma”

Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas

A common byproduct of growing up in a toxic environment, is that you approach life with all these assumptions about people and relationships that are just flat out wrong.  As children we are constantly taking in data from our lives and using it to build schemas.  These schemas are basically blueprints – step by step instructionsContinue reading “Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas”

Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)

One of my goals for the year is to work on opening my throat chakra. For those of you who don’t speak metaphysics, this is really just a whoo-whoo way of saying – I’m working on the skill of speaking my truth more freely. I like to think my verbal communication skills are on point.Continue reading “Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)”

Progress over Perfectionism – Letting Go of All or Nothing Thinking

I am a recovering perfectionist. Like I was the classic GT kid. I graduated from high school second in my class. I was 16 when I started at A&M as a sophomore. Those are things you just don’t accomplish without being highly motivated to do the best. Once I was past the regimented world ofContinue reading “Progress over Perfectionism – Letting Go of All or Nothing Thinking”